BISHALACH THE SHIDDUCH UN - CRISIS
Many discuss the connection between the splitting of the sea and shidduchim. Our sages mention that not only are זיווגים "difficult" as Krias Yam Suf, but also קשה מזונותיו של אדם כקריעת ים סוף . I would like to suggest a new angle.
Hashem told Moshe, מה תצעק אלי - "Why are you crying out toward me?" דבר אל בני ישראל ויסעו! - "Speak to the Jews and they should travel!" Rashi explains that it was not a time for extended Tefilah, rather a short prayer would suffice and they should take action and go. But Rashi adds another explanation that I believe sheds light on the connection between all three "difficulties".
Why are you crying out, עלי הדבר תלוי, ולא עליך! - This matter is upon me to take care of, not you!
Even prayer is not needed here! As Rashi points out in the following words, אין להם אלא ליסע! שאין הים עומד בפניהם. כדאי זכות אבותם, והאמונה...לקרוע את הים. - "All they need to do is to go! For the sea does not stand before them. It suffices the merit of their Avos and their own Emunah to split the sea."
Rashi is sharing an amazing lesson here. Sometimes miracles and great events are already set to happen with all the necessary components already in place. There is no need for extra effort - or even a lengthy (or perhaps ANY!) tefilah! It is already a done deal! Just make your move forward!
This is exactly the lesson we learn from the specific language of the passuk regarding parnassah as well. The Gemara in Megillah 18a relates how Rabbah Bar Bar Chana learned the precise definition of a passuk from a caravan driver. השלך על ה' יהבך והוא יכלכלך - Cast upon Hashem your burden and he will provide for you. Rabbah was riding with his package still upon his back, when the driver told him what a neddless burden it was. The camel was carrying the weight of both its passenger and his luggage any way! What was the point of Rabbah also beaing its weight on his own back?! That is the meaning of יהבך"" - your own needless burden of worry anxiety and concern about parnassah. When Hashem is carrying that burden for you anyway. He decides what, how much, when and where your parnassah will come. All that is needed is for you to go through the actions so it should not be an evident miracle. מזונותיו של אדם קצובין לו מראש השנה - All is set by G-d already from the beginning of each year. Perhaps then was the time to worry, pray and increase your merits and segulos. But throughout the year, it is already a done deal! And yet people worry, praying anxiously, looking incessantly - often to the detrimant of their learning or family time - for better opportunities and "עצות" to help carry the burden with Hashem?
The only other matter that Chazal tell us is absolutely predestined and a done deal, is shidduchim. From before the babies are born their זיווג has been arranged and it is nearly impossible for that to change. There is no need for anxiety or worry. No need for lengthy tearful prayers. Just go through the motions of simple hishtadlus. All is set and ready. Perhaps it is not the right time for one or the other to meet yet. Perhaps they are 10 years apart and one mate is still a child! But there is no reason to worry or fret. עלי הדבר תלוי ולא עליך.
In all three of these matters, the "difficulty" is when people think it is THEIR effort that is needed to bring the results. It is "difficult" for Hashem to act when we take over the reins, and it is "difficult" for Hashem to see that needless pain and worry.
Baruch Hashem there is no crisis.