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Tuesday, November 11, 2025

BYA SHABBATON – IT’S NOT ABOUT THE BUTTONS

 BYA SHABBATON – IT’S NOT ABOUT THE BUTTONS

מי שטרח בערב שבת יאכל בשבת

 

The basic concept of preparing is very simple. If you work on something in advance you achieve and if not you lose.

But don't we find instances otherwise?  -  יש קנה עולמו בשעה אחת גמ' ע''ז יז. -  The truth is that there are such rare instances - יש - it may happen but it is certainly not to be relied upon. Most sinners who think they will surely one day repent and be zocheh to Olam Habah, usually DON'T. Hashem does not assist in the teshuvah of one who says אחטא ואשוב and without Hashem's assistance the future is bleak. 

I recently visited a shivah house (which probably was not a halachically mandated mourning) for a man who lived a very free-style irreligious life into his nineties, and he did not make any statement of regret or viduy. To the contrary, he demanded to be buried at the bottom of the sea.

So certainly the "way to go" is with preparation. 

But even so, it seems like the rare ones who achieve their lofty goal in one moment are surely the lucky ones! 

 

So why is it that R' Meir cried upon hearing the heavenly voice declaring their place in Olam Haba? It is NOT because R' Meir was jealous of this lucky man's lot. Rather, says the Maharsha, he felt bad for the individual. If he could achieve Olam Habah in such a short moment how much more could he have achieved if he would've lived a full life of Torah & mitzvos!

 

I'd like to suggest another reason to be sad for this UNLUCKY person who did not prepare throughout his life.

 

A story is told about a woman who desperately needed a blessing for her infant son from the  Chofetz Chaim. He told her that Shabbos has the source of blessing to bring his salvation and to prepare everything for Shabbos early, so that by noon every Friday, the house would be tranquil and fully set for Shabbos. 

The Chofetz Chaim writes that from the time a person begins his preparations for Shabbos, the spirit of Shabbos already takes some effect. (Gehinom itself will cease for such a person from the time he started his preps!)

From here we see a whole new perspective on preparations. The become PART of the goal itself! It is not two distinct, separate activities, rather they blend together to become part of the whole experience. When we prepare for an exciting trip, vacation or camp, the preparations carry the same excitement as the goal itself! 

 

I'd like to suggest an insight into the gemara of מי שטרח בערב שבת יאכל בשבת  - Hashem said these words as a rebuke to the Non-Jews who seek reward in olam haba. Hashem calls them שוטים ! To thinnk they can get reward without putting in the effort beforehand, is such a foolish assumption that even Goyim are rebuked for thinking so. 

But even more than this, the entire concept of מי שטרח is really a Non- Jewish concept. Work today to be paid tomorrow is a very poor, shallow perception of life. 

A person who lives enriched with Torah values and perception sees it very differently. Every effort and activity in preparation is not a toil or an unavoidable headache, but an exciting part of the process!

We don't call erev Shabbos preps טירחה but rather a much more positive word - הכנה! This is the word Yosef Hatzaddik used when his brothers came to Egypt. This the word Moshe used when the Mann fell on Friday. This is the word we should use for preparing for Shabbos and our entire life for Olam Haba - HYPE.

 

It is part and parcel of Shabbos itself. And so too EVERY SINGLE THING we do in our lifetime can be l'shem shamayim, as part of building our eternal palace. 

Chanoch was the quintessential embodiment of chinuch - not separate acts in training for the future, but chinuch is a concept of inauguration, the beginning of the goal itself. He was the ultimate Ben Olam Haba - he went alive to heaven, without a dividing line between the worldly activities of olam hazeh and the eternal joy of olam haba. On him it was said that as he stitched shoes to their soles, he was מייחד יחודיים unifying the Heavens. R' Yeruchom Levovitz explains that although this is a deep mystical concept, it also means that his perfect intent on honest quality work for his customers was actually what brought heaven and earth together.

 

The story of R' Elchanan's button was a message to simple unlearned Jew - it's not about the buttons. But for a Torah enriched mind, every one of a person's buttons throughout life can actually be a diamond. 

 

Preparing for Olam Haba should not be viewed as a טירחה - a burden of prerequisites to attain a goal. We can van and should view everything we do with the concept of Ben Olam Haba - we are infusing everything with the excitement, thrill, and hype of the dream goal itself.

 

It's never too early to build hype for Shabbos. You're not too young to infuse your life to become the next Mrs Fedder or Rebbetzin Reisman. 

Every moment of your life now can be steps inaugurating the most amazing wife in the world and the greatest Jewish mother your children can wish for!

Build hype for Shabbos & build hype for life!


Friday, October 31, 2025

Lech Lecha - Don't SAY Thank You

 Lech Lecha - Don't SAY Thank You

We find a few times in this parsha  ויבן שם מזבח - Avraham built numerous altars, one for each prophecy of good news. R' Gamliel Rabinovich points out the clear message that it does not suffice to just yell or sing "TYH" (or a bumper sticker, rubber band or ____________ (fill in the blank). Something has to be DONE!

Additionally, Avraham didn’t just do a passing act but built something of permanence. It also wasn't מצבות - one stone monuments that he erected, but מזבחות that are built up. 

Megillas Ta'anis was a recording of the days that we may not fast or say Tachanun due to various miracles that occurred on many different dates throughout the years. It was dissolved because there were so many miracles, that we could never fast! 

Baruch Hashem the lovingkindness that each of ourselves and our families experience are so abundant, it would certainly be difficult to build so many structures as our thankfulness should demand. 

But we are not excused.

Very small permament commitments have the same effect. They amass a huge structure built of so many deeds! Each new small commitment becomes its very own מזבח that elevates us to serve Hashem more intimately than before. We are Olah as Korbanos Shelamim upon those altars we build.


Thank Hashem! - And build your own Mizbe'ach.

NOACH - INFLUENCE

 NOACH - איש האדמה 

In an entire year of animal care Noach did not become a zoologist, but in a few moments of farming he became איש אדמה

a) While busy in the teivah taking care of others, he did not absorb their lower nature. As when a vessel is "busy" expelling and ejecting flavors it does not absorb. So too, when the focus is entirely on being mashpiah, it prevents absorbing hashpa'ah. 

b) When doing something unpleasant the body, and heart works to reject it. When doing something that is perceived as pleasurable we are open to swallow hook line and sinker. The power of hashapa'ah in an enjoyable environment of fun, friendship like in camp or bungalow colonies, or over a meal or at a concert, is tremendous. It may be an amazing tool for giving hashpa'ah or a dangerous pitfall for receiving the wrong hashpa'ah. 

The spoon full of sugar will make anything go down.   

Sunday, October 26, 2025

NOACH – CHESSED

NOACH – CHESSED

Noach 6.14 תעשה את התיבה

The רוקח points out that the word את usually adds an associated subject to the main one being doscussed and therefore, here it is icluding either an additional board upon which Og or perhaps the giant Re'eim were seated upon. He offers another pshatt that seems astounding. An additional small Teivah was build to tag along the "Mothership" and it stored extra food if needed. 

 

What?

It is interesting to note that את התיבה  is mentioned only once more when the ark first rose up upon the water. However it is not mentioned again. It seems perhaps that it didn't even make it through the flood. So what was the point of this additional small teivah?

 

In Birchas Hamazon we say that Hashem gives בחן ובחסד - One was Noach's midah - to give what is needed with grace - "service with a smile". The other was Avraham's midah, to offer more than necessary. 

Perhaps the first instructions from Hashem to Noach was an exercise in Avraham's midah - Chessed. As much food as was brought into the teivah, either it was minimal (as the Gra explains אשר יאכל to mean just one כדי שביעה and it miraculously sufficed) or all that was needed crammed in. Both of these left no room for extras. But as a midah of chessed, when only "enough" is presented, the recipient feels uncomfortable to take. But when an overflowing platter of extra food is offered, then the guest is comfortable to take as much as he would like. 

The only way to exercise this type of giving was to purposefully designate a whole extra unit for extras. This was the purpose of the additional teivah - an act of overflowing chessed to allow all the guests in the teivah to feel comfortable to eat, knowing there are extra reserves and nothing to be concerned about. So once they saw this extra storage at the beginning of the mabul, there really was no need for it to survive the flood.  


Saturday, October 25, 2025

Noach – Hakoras HaTovah

 Noach – Hakoras HaTovah

Noach 11.5 אשר בנו בני האדם

Rashi asks who else could we have thought were building the tower? Rather the Torah is associating them to Adam Harishon who was כפוי טובה - ingrateful to Hashem for his wife, and these people were aslo ingrateful to Hashem who saved them for the mabul and provided them with so much goodness. 

It seems that this is the natural human condition for Bnei HaAdam, (Aznaim LaTorah says this excludes Noach and those who would follow his lead who DID show Hakoras HaTov) for although Hashem gave him the exercise of gratitude when nothing would grow until Adam would appreciate the value of rain, the short lived experience did not instill this trait within the DNA of mankind. 

However as we find our Sages compare Noach to Avraham, we may inspect Avraham's manner of using Hakoras HaTov as the foundation of Avodas Hashem. It worked because he put a clear price tag on what was owed. And only then did he offer to cover the tab if his guests showed appreciation to Hashem. 

 

There are two steps in instilling this midah in ourselves and in the chinuch of our children. One is dispelling the notion of entitlement and recognize that there is some indebtedness for what was done. This hopefully is an easy training - by instructing children (and ourselves) to say thank you. This was the basic level of training for Adam, and yet it still was not absorbed in him. 

However, the true midah is when the Tov received is quantified. It is measured to appreciate the extent of the goodness done and properly express gratitude accordingly. 

 

When someone is not yet a Makir Tovah, it behooves his benefactor to first make him pay and only then offer the gift. This allows the recipient to clearly understand what is owed and yet being given as gift.


Saturday, October 4, 2025

SHUVAH 86 THE PRESENT FUTURE – (CHATGPT ADAPTATION FROM NOTES)

 SHUVAH 86 THE PRESENT FUTURE – CHAT GPT VERSION

שובה ישראל עד ה׳ — this refers to the ultimate level of teshuvah, teshuvah mei’ahavah, that reaches the highest place, the כסא הכבוד.

The Dibros Moshe in Yoma, siman 11, anaf 4, discusses whether this level is actually required — and less is only bedieved — or whether it is simply an elevated level.

In Ki Savo, 30:2, we find the phrase: ושבת עד ה׳... בכל נפשך. This language, like that in Shema, implies actual self-sacrifice.

Rav Chaim Volozhiner, in his drush for Selichos, suggests that one must even be willing to give up his life for teshuvah if necessary.

The Gemara in Avodah Zarah 17a tells of one who returned from מינות and died — Rabbi Eliezer ben Durdaya — whose death came as he was so attached to his sinful ways. This supports Rav Chaim Volozhiner’s idea.

Similarly, the Smak (mitzvah 3) relates that the students of Rabbi Yehudah HaChassid gave their lives to repent for misusing Divine Names.

The Sharei Teshuvah (1:11, ikar 2) writes that the essence of teshuvah is to abandon sin — ויגמור בכל לבבו — and to fully commit never to do it again.

The Rambam in Hilchos Teshuvah (1:1) writes ולעולם איני חוזר, and again in 2:2, ויגמור בליבו.

The source passuk is Yeshayahu 55:7 — יעזוב איש דרכו. The Ibn Ezra explains that only abandoning the ways that led to sin in the past constitutes full teshuvah.

But this seems to require merely abandoning one’s plans for sin, not necessarily a positive commitment never to do it again. So where do the Rambam and Rabbeinu Yonah derive the requirement for an active commitment for the future?

The source is in the Yerushalmi at the end of Yoma and in Vayikra Rabbah 3:3, regarding the viduy of Yom Kippur — עוד לא אעשה. However, that only mentions the language of viduy.

Even though we understand the Rambam (2:3) and Rabbeinu Yonah (1:11), who both give the mashal that not abandoning our plans to sin is like holding a carcass in the mikvah — it should still suffice to abandon plans or aspirations to sin. Why do they both require an absolute commitment for the future?

Even within the mashal itself — to purify, one would not need to commit to never touching a carcass again! So why is that needed for teshuvah?

Yet we do see that the need to commit to the future in one’s viduy, or at least to incorporate it in thought while saying viduy, is clear from Rav Chaim Kanievsky. He was asked why the Rambam doesn’t mention the future in the viduy of Yom Kippur (2:8). Rav Chaim answered that with absolute regret in the viduy, the future commitment is already incorporated.

Rav Moshe was asked why this is not reflected in our text of the Yom Kippur viduy, and he answered that indeed it should be said — perhaps, as we’ll see later, the viduy of Yom Kippur is different.

An even stronger issue is the well-known principle that Hashem judges only the present — באשר הוא שם (Vayeira 21:17) — and not based on future deficiencies.

So we need a new understanding of באשר הוא שם and how it relates to future commitments.

Rashi brings from Bereishis Rabbah (53:14) the angels’ claim that Yishmael would one day cause Jewish death through thirst — and yet he was given water now? Rav Chaim Kanievsky (Derech Sicha, here) was asked: since when do angels know the distant future? He answered, “If Hashem wants, they can know.” Meaning, Hashem went out of His way to expose the future to the angels here, and then to diffuse their claim with the response — “Who cares about the future?”

We also find a strong association of time — past and future — with viduy. Viduy requires confessing the past and declaring the future. The first hoda’ah in the Torah was said by Leah with the word הפעם, and the last viduy in the Torah appears when something was completed — כי תכלה.

And teshuvah itself is hinted to with the word ועתה — the present.

The Maharal in Nesiv HaTeshuvah (ch. 5) explains that man is unpredictable. He can sway one way and then the other — until viduy. By saying “I used to sin,” he removes the yetzer from himself and gives himself over to Hashem. What is it about viduy that does this?

Rav Yerucham (Daas Torah, Chumash, vol. 3 p.128) and Rav Wolbe (Maamarei Yemei Ratzon, “Shofaros”) explain that the shofar represents revelation — the revelation of potential into practical: at the Akeidah, at Sinai, and ultimately, the revelation of our own spirit and soul hidden beneath the physical.

The shofar reveals that our רוח — our soul — is our truest essence, while the body is only a cloak, a מלבוש.

The Mesilas Yesharim, in his section on teshuvah, writes that regret functions like hataras nedarim — the regret removes the daas from the original vow or sin, as though it were done by another person, or by a shoteh. What is miraculous about this is that the change of mind — the revelation of the true self — occurs in the present, yet it removes the daas from the past.

This is the meaning of the Gemara in Rosh Hashanah 16b and the Rambam (2:4) that שינוי השם tears up decrees — because the person is now truly identified as a different being than the one who sinned. Or perhaps, the one who sinned was never the real me — that wasn’t the authentic self.

When one only regrets, he may fall back, as the Maharal noted — רשעים מלאים חרטה הם. But when one makes a statement of viduy, it places a time stamp on the present — ועתה — as Rav Yisrael Salanter said: “איז נישט נאר בעסער, נאר אנדריש” — I am not merely better, I am different. My current essence is changed. The past — חטאתי לה׳ — was wrong, but that is not who I am now, and not who I will be going forward.

The revelation of an authentic viduy identifies that the sin and the person doing teshuvah are not the same person. (If the sin was so intrinsic to him, its removal would indeed cause the soul’s departure from the body.)

The Midrash in Vayikra Rabbah 3:3 gives two analogies for this viduy that includes both regret for the past and commitment for the future.

Rav Yitzchak says: כאדם שהוא מלחים שני נסרים ומדביקן זה לזה — like one who smooths two surfaces so perfectly that they bond. The Pirush Maharzu explains this as the phenomenon now known as “van der Waals forces” or “cold welding” — in a vacuum, two perfectly smooth and clean surfaces can fuse into one continuous piece.

This analogy gives new insight. When one truly identifies with his spirit, it is not confined by time as the body is. In the world of spirit, היה, הווה, ויהיה all exist simultaneously — like frames of a long video, all present, though our finite perception only sees the current frame.

If we smooth out the “bumps” of the past through regret and commit to a smooth, clean future, all frames — our entirety — become clear and unified, bonding perfectly with Hashem — שובה ישראל עד ה׳ אלוקיך — up to the כסא הכבוד.

The atoms, as it were, don’t “know” they belong to different pieces. It recalls Yechezkel 1:14 — והחיות רצוא ושוב כמראה הבזק — and the angels ascending and descending on Yaakov’s ladder, as Yaakov himself was attached to the כסא הכבוד.

This reveals a new dimension of באשר הוא שם. Perhaps a person is judged by his current level, but there is a deeper truth: when there is absolute regret for the past and absolute commitment for the future, the entirety of the person — past, present, and future — is perfect in the present.

Hashem may know that the person will change, and that a later version may falter again — yet in this moment, his soul is revealed as completely pure. That is what Hashem showed the angels about Yishmael’s future: they saw future wrongdoing, but Hashem said that in his present state, his entire self — his totality — is pure.

This understanding — that viduy reveals a new self, utterly clean across all time — seems inconsistent with the practice of repeating viduy year after year. After all, if one has been redefined, why repeat?

Yet the Gemara in Yoma 86b records two opinions — the Chachamim and Rabbi Eliezer ben Yaakov — and the halachah in Rambam (2:8) and Shulchan Aruch (607:4) is that one may, or even should, repeat viduy from one Yom Kippur to the next.

Many reasons are given not to repeat it — Medrash Rabbah (Pikudei 52:2):

It’s like a dog returning to its vomit (עתק),

It can appear arrogant (בגאוה), as if there are no new sins,

Or it can show a lack of belief in Hashem’s forgiveness (ובוז).

Still, we pasken that one may or should repeat viduy on Yom Kippur.

I would like to suggest that there are two different types of viduy — and two different types of teshuvah.

Commentaries note distinctions in the Rambam’s presentation. In 1:1, the Rambam writes: ועשיתי כך וכך... ולעולם איני חוזר לדבר זה — detailing the sin and the commitment not to repeat. There’s no mention of repetition. But later, in the Yom Kippur viduy (2:8) — הוידוי שנהגו בו כל ישראל אבל אנחנו חטאנו — there’s no detail, no future commitment, and the Rambam explicitly says it is repeated yearly.

The Rambam also distinguishes between general teshuvah (up to 2:6) and the special teshuvah of Yom Kippur.

Rabbeinu Yonah too notes a separate requirement of teshuvah (2:14, 4:17), and in 4:21 explains that there are two kinds of viduy — one that is repeated and one that is not.

There’s a Medrash Rabbah (Bereishis 22:13) — when Adam saw Kayin alive after his sin, he exclaimed: טוב להודות.

The Yerushalmi (Shavuos 1:5) says that when Moshe saw all the se’irim brought for doubtful sins, he asked what atones for known sins. Hashem replied with the words of Aharon’s Yom Kippur viduy — “והתודה.” Moshe then exclaimed: מזמור לתודה.

The Zohar (quoted in Reishis Chochmah, Ahavah 10:15) also reads מזמור לתודה as a reference to viduy. It says that the next verse — עבדו את ה׳ בשמחה, בואו לפניו ברננה — is fulfilled when one says viduy with his korban. The kohen brings simcha, the levi’im bring renanah. But now, without the Beis HaMikdash, how can a brokenhearted viduy come with simcha and renanah? The Zohar answers: through the praises of Hashem, through Torah and song that accompany viduy.

I would like to suggest that the two perakim in Tehillim referring to viduy correspond to the two types of viduy in the Rambam and Rabbeinu Yonah. One — טוב להודות — expresses teshuvah itself: the mitzvah to confess specific wrongdoing and commit never to repeat it. This viduy is not repeated; the person has changed completely — past, present, and future.

The other — עבדו את ה׳ — belongs to the avodah of Yom Kippur: to verbally say “we have sinned,” even without specific detail or personal feeling, acknowledging that all people sin — אין צדיק בארץ אשר יעשה טוב ולא יחטא. This viduy is repeated each Yom Kippur.

This explains why there can be a repeated viduy for Yom Kippur purposes, even though the teshuvah itself — the deep revelation of the self — should not require repetition.

This is the ultimate teshuvah — the revelation of the pure essence of a person that transcends time, bonding with Hashem like cold welding, up to the כסא הכבוד. It redefines באשר הוא שם — not as a point in time, but as an all-encompassing state.

The Rambam opens the Yad HaChazakah: לידע שיש שם מצוי ראשון. The Kesef Mishneh asks — where is שם? He explains that sometimes שם does not refer to one point, but to the encompassing of all points.

The Malbim even explains באשר הוא שם as referring to Hashem Himself — Hashem being there for salvation.

This is the revelation of the shofar: we are not bound by our material selves, nor defined by sin. Teshuvah allows us to identify with the eternal, timeless spirit within, and to return — body and soul together — in performance of Hashem’s mitzvos.


Saturday, September 27, 2025

NITZAVIM - LEFT STANDING

 אתם נצבים – Rashi says that this gathering took place on the day of Moshe’s eventual death. The Sifsei Chachamim explains that Rashi learned this from the word היום as a reference to the known day of which Moshe later says בן מאה ועשרים שנה אנכי היום . 

However, perhaps as a bit of a drush of מילתא דבדיחותא we may ask that Rashi make no mention of the word היום and in most prints, it is not even in Rashi’s dibbur hamaschil!

Perhaps we can say with a bit of humor, that we know the parsha always hints to the time of year. Rashi knew it was the day of Moshe’s departure simply because אתם נצבים – they were all STANDING!  - Why were they all standing at this meeting? They must have not had a seating gabbai!

Why not? Wasn’t Yehoshua always the one to set up the seating in the Ohel Moed? Why did he not do so that day? It must be that it was the day of Moshe’s departure and subsequently Yehoshua’s day of malchus. It would be inappropriate for Yehoshua to be serving as Mishares Moshe and the seating gabbai on the same day of his inauguration. 

Hence, they were all left standing. 😉 


Saturday, August 30, 2025

SHOFTIM - WHO HAS TIME?

 SHOFTIM - WHO HAS TIME?

In this week's parshah, Shoftim it speaks of a Jewish siege around a city that take place for YAMIM RABIM - many days. Rashi explains this to mean just 3 days. This is a bit astounding as we find that when Yakov Avinun worked for Lavan for 7 years he considered all those years just YAMIM ACHADIM a short few days!

The Zohar says that on a deeper level, this passuk is directed at the Satan. When it is decreed for a "siege" of judgement to fall upon Klal Yisrael, Hashem tells the Satan that 3 days is too much time for Talmidei Chachamim to suffer affliction and have disruption from their Torah. So when Torah is being interfered with, three days is Yamim Rabim - alot. But when Yaa'kov was listening to his mother Rivka in seeking his zivug, and his investment of time towards that  mitzvah of marriage itself, all the time in the world is considered quite little. 

This is the concept of היום קצר והמלאכה מרובה - however much time you may think you have, if you are a בעל מלאכה - a spritually productive person, there never is enough. The day is always too short. Life is short for a real בעל מלאכה. 

"Long days of summer" is the phrase of those who are not truly active and productive. They have no sense of urgency that comes with a מצווה ועושה. Someone who is aware that אנן אגירי יומא אנן - we are hirees for the day, and ובעל הבית דוחק - The Boss is always pressing, sees time as fleeting.

One week into Ellul, many can still have the feeling that there is plenty of time until Rosh HaShanah to do Teshuvah. And even after that there is still time until Yom Kippur. But that must be a person who has no concept of the מלאכה at hand. He is totally blind of the responsibilities of tikkun that require his attention. He is a Batlan. A Batlan has time.

We have just Yamim Achadim. Chap Arain and fix and do as much as you can. Now. 

Sunday, May 4, 2025

AVOS 2.9 AVOS 2.13 Lev Tov - a good heart.

 לב טוב  Lev Tov - a good heart.

This is one of the most vague and broadly interpreted lines in Pirkei Avos which leaves us bereft of the entire goal of R Yochanan Ben Zakkai. R'Y'B'Z' instructed his Talmidim to each find one specific trait to work on aiming for perfection so that many other middos will naturally follow suit. Giving a broad definition to לב טוב  misses his point entirely. However R' Yonah gives a very specific definition; סבלנות - to perfect the trait of tolerance. Patience is just one form of tolerating discomfort. But learning to peacefully accept and bear any burden upon yourself is an exercise of ענוה as well.

We usually understand that being סובל difficulties and especially the wrongdoings and disrespect from others is a wonderful, but very specific trait. This R' Yonah opens up a whole new understanding that this middah is so great and all encompassing that all the others are included in it!


AVOS 2.9 AVOS 2.13 A GENEROUS EYE

 AVOS 2.13 AVOS 2.9

עין טובה - ayin tovah - R Yonah explains to mean נדיבות - generosity. This is a huge chiddush - that generosity is not seated in the heart but rather in the EYES!

We tend to understand that our eyes are receptive organs, receiving and absorbing the sights we see. It is this general error that causes such difficulty with the challenges of לא תתורו - if our eyes act as scouts for the body we are already in trouble. From this R Yonah we see that eyes can GIVING! Instead of always being used for זנות - which means to nourish and feed, they can be tools to provide and give! 

R' Chaim Shmuelevitz and R' Nosson Tzvi Finkel both point out the interesting distinction between one who deafens  another, in which case he pays the full monetary value of the victim, and when one blinds another in which case the person's value is not fully diminished. And yet only a blind man is considered like dead, but a deaf man is still considered alive! Although from a monetary point of view a deaf person is not financially productive, so long as he can see, he can still give to others with his eyes - and that is life!

Every trait and character in the nefesh has a physical limb with which it uses as its instrument.  R Yeruchom writes that the ability to accept and absorb a lesson is rooted in the physical tool of our ears. Hence we drill the ear of a slave and not his heart or brain. We see from R' Yonah that the instrument of נדיבות - a generous spirit - is in the body's EYES.

When Moshe Rabeinu first went out to his brothers it says וירא בסבלותם he looked at their burden - to which Rashi explains נתן עינו וליבו - He GAVE his eyes and hearts.

We can look at people and exude warmth, acceptance, love, respect. We can express and share happiness with others or express pain and share in someone's burden. The eyes are not just passive receptors like the ears, they can be actively generous. An ayin tovah is a generous EYE.