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Monday, June 15, 2026

Shlach – Miraglim – Social Influence

 Shlach – Miraglim – Social Influence


R' Yerucham notes the tremendous urgency with which Moshe treated the danger of the meraglim influencing Yehoshua. Adding or changing one's name is something done out of absolute dire need. We find that Calev as well was not confident in his own ability to oppose the spies and needed "outside help" by running to Kivrei Avos and praying at their gravesite. The Mashgiach said to his students in Mir, Poland, that they are young and can't fully appreciate what he has to say from his long life and experience. There is no more powerful pull and influence in the world as much as peer and social pressure. The influence of those people who you spend time with, your neighbors, travel partners, your business colleagues, can't be blocked. Only with extreme measures of prayer, or a change of name, can one hope to be protected from their influence. 

 

But why couldn't Yehoshua and Kalev just strengthen themselves in this nisayon like they would for all other challenges in life? What is so uniquely dangerous about social influence more than so many other challenges? 

 

I would like to suggest, that the gemara in kiddushin compares the Yetzer Hara as a wound that a loving father inflicts upon his son. But the father places an antibiotic bandage upon it and tells his son, so long as he keeps the bandage on he will be safe from being overcome by infection. So too, the Torah is our antibiotic that ensures our safety from our own desires, that were inflicted upon us by our Loving Father who knows us best. Who designed us with the perfect balance of challenges and tools, so that just keeping a good diet of Torah will ensure our safety from the inclinations that He bestowed upon us.

 

But when we expose ourselves to outside influence, if we introduce into our system external germs, that are the passions and faulty traits in others, then the bandage and our own toolset of good traits will not suffice. An extra dose of learning, mussar, or typical prayer coming from our own internal system won't do the trick. For external invasion of yetzer hora, we need to come onto tools beyond ourselves. To change who we are literally by changing our names, or going beyond this world and praying with the assistance of the merit of Tzadikkim who are no longer part of THIS world.

 

This should make us very wary of our surroundings, especially as for many people their surroundings change in the summer. And it should also give us a lot of hope, that if we surround ourselves with good, righteous friends and neighbors it has the ability to supercharge our growth and catapult us way beyond what we could have achieved just by working on ourselves. As Chazal say, מידה טובה מרובה - May we all take advantage of this knowledge and help ourselves spring forward!


Sunday, May 3, 2026

EMOR - PREPARING THE MENORAH - THE REBBI'S MISSION

EMOR - PREPARING THE MENORAH - THE REBBI'S MISSION 

Aharon was given the mitzvah to יערוך אותו -  to set up the Menorah. Not necessarily to light it. Anyone could theoretically do that.

The menorah, we know represents חכמה and we see from here that the main function of the Rebbi or Mechanech is to PREPARE the vessel to be ignited from ANYONE. The goal to is to raise a חכם - What is a chacham? הלומד מכל אדם - as R' Yonah explains (Avos 4.1) One who appreciates and loves חכמה so much that he is eager to learn from anyone and everyone. That is a חכם. 

So an expert Rebbi or mechanech's job is to clean out the past negativity and ashes of extinguished lights. So that the oil and wick can be lit in the מנורה הטהור - directly in contact with the vessel with no blockage or separation. 

When the vessel is clear, and a fresh thirsty wick is prepared, and fuel is there (perhaps פרפראות - like appetizers for חכמה ?) the talmid is already a חכם and now any wisdom will be easily imparted and absorbed in his eager mind.  

KABOLAS HATORAH

 KABOLAS HATORAH

Avos 1.6 עשה לך רב...ר' יונה - אפילו אתה יודע כמותו... 

“Make for yourself a Rav” means to accept him as your guide even if you assess that he is no greater than you, accept his guidance, leadership and authority. Not as a second opinion when you have no opinion or preference on the matter, and not just when you are unsure. But even when you know as much as he.

Avos 4.8 – ואל תאמר קבלו דעתי, שהן רשאים ולא אתה  אל תהי דן יחידי...

Even one who is worthy enough to judge alone, still involve others in the judgement. And although you may be the wisest and did not even need their opinions, and you are sure of your own knowledge enough to tell them to accept your view, DON’T. Because they are right and you are wrong!

Sanhedrin 21b   א''ר יצחק מפני מה לא נתגלו טעמי התורה, ונכשל בהן גדול עולם.... אני ארבה ולא אסור

Shlomoh was the wisest of all men. He was not mistaken in his own assessment that no one could sway his heart. He was the best at understanding and assessing anything in world! 

Shabbos 12b שמא יטה... אמר ר' ישמעאל בן אלישע, אני אקרא ולא אטה...כמה גדולים דברי חכמים  

R’ Yishmael ben Elisha was absolutely sure that Chazal’s concern did not apply to him. He wasn’t wrong about himself.

Both Shlomoh Hamelech and R’ Yishmael were wrong about the concept of accepting a matter that they knew to be wrong. 

נעשה ונשמע means to accept and do even before any reason could make it sensible. That is the signature middah of Kabolas HaTorah. 

When the Jews readily accepted Malchus Hashem, Hashem said only when they accept His Chukim, will He accept them as His nation to be their King.

Bittul Hada’as and Emunas Chachamim is not difficult for unlearned people who recognize their own ignorance and lack of wisdom or expertise. It is also easy to have blind trust in someone who seems to have expertise in an area that we know we have no knowledge of. Like a specialist in medicine or a Kabbalist. It is only a smart, wise, educated, experienced person who is challenged with this. Self-confident people who have what to show in terms of their achievements in life, struggle with relying upon others for anything, as they can’t trust anyone else to succeed as much as they trust themselves. All the more so, to have bittul hada’as, ignoring their own opinion on a matter, in reverence to a chacham or their Rav is excruciatingly difficult. 

Perhaps this is why this trait goes along with הוי דן את כל האדם לכף זכות 

How can this very crucial and valuable trait be developed in those who have their own sense of confidence in their own wisdom and abilities?

We find that R’ Yerucham actually actively worked on this, knowing his own greatness, he understood that exercise in this middah was necessary, especially for someone like himself. He would purposefully look for opportunities to ask advice (I assume on minor matters) from young talmidim who were not the greatest, and he would subject himself to follow their guidance regardless of his own clarity on the matter!

A Rav is not for convenience when you want a free extra opinion, and not for reassurance to prove yourself right or in support of your own opinions. It is to be mekabel his hadrachah regardless. And not just for reserved 1 in 100 times when you feel you need hadracha. He is to be sought after and asked even in matters that seem to be quite clear. That is part of this mitzvah of עשה לך רב . LOOK for opportunities to ask! Don’t evade avoid or shy away from them! They are the keys to growth and greatness!

R’ Wolbe took upon himself a new Rav – R’ Yonasan David, that was 20 years his junior! He sat in front of him like a young student in class by his rebbi’s desk.

R’ Brudny told me that R’ Don Segal is his Rebbi, and he calls him and is comfortable enough to sak him EVERYTHING.


Even without the specific mitzvah of עשה לך רב , the middah itself of Bittul Hada’as or self-doubt, considering the possibility שהן רשאים ולא אתה even when it seems clear to yourself otherwise, is also a crucial trait for marriage as well. A spectacular masmid and bal middos with yichus as well, was once suggested as a shidduch to a person close to R’ Elashiv. R’ Elyashiv commented that as great as the young man was, he never learned mussar and will never be able to fault or accept blame upon himself, and this, he said is extremely important for a good marriage. 

The Chofetz Chaim exemplified this, when upon building his sukkah in same place he had done for decades before, the first time of his second marriage, his new wife suggested that it be taken down and built in another place that she felt worked better. The Chofetz Chaim obliged without comment, even while knowing otherwise. [She ended up saying the new location was not good, thereupon the Chofetz Chaim took it down and rebuilt it again in its original place.]

The ability to doubt oneself is crucial for relationships and for authentic truthful growth.


Friday, April 10, 2026

PESACH 86 NEILAS HACHAG - ZERIZUS

 PESACH 86 NEILAS HACHAG - ZERIZUS

The earliest prep times, we precede the yom tov by 30 days. But truthfully it begins much earlier with ושמרתם את המצות. The middah of zerizus is woven into Pesach with preps going as far back as the harvesting of the grains, as chazal darshan this applies to all mitzvos. מצוה הבאה לידך אל תחמיצנה.  

And now we are at the last day of all this preparation. According to R' Moshe Hadarshan brought in the last Rashi in the parsha of tzitzis in the end of Shlach, Shirah was said today - on the 8th day, represented by the 8 strings of tzitzis. (Some explain that he means eight from slaughtering the Korban Pesach.) 

 

What is the connection between the middah of zerizus expressed in the beginning with ושמרתם את המצות and the culmination of Shirah? This also correlates with the first time Hashem is called מלך in the Torah - ה' ימלוך לעולם ועד , and also the first time we have מלכות  in sefira, as the 8th of Pesach is מלכות שבחסד with the culmination at the end of sefira מלכות שבמלכות.

 

Shlomo HaMelech in Mishlei 6.6-8 tells us to learn zerizus from the ants, whose are exemplary in their industrialism without any קצין שוטר ומושל telling them what to do. Yet in Mishlei 22.29 he writes that איש מהיר במלאכתו - a zariz, לפני מלכים יתיצב - will stand in service before Kings. So is the Zariz in the presence of his authorities or not?

 

We find the term התיצבו preceding the Shirah of  krias Yam Suf as well. The Mechilta tells us that it is an expression of readiness for Ruach Hakodesh. As when Moshe told them ואתם תחרישון - to be silent from their cries and prayers, they asked him what should they be saying? Moshe told them אתם תהיו מפארים ומרוממים ונותנים שיר…. So Shlomo HaMelech tells us that a Zariz leads to being נתיצב and this leads to Ruach Hakodesh needed for shirah.

 

The first Pachad Yitzchok on Pesach is about zerizus and he explains based on the Maharal that doing a mitzvah with alacrity (or laziness) effects the actual mitzvah, infusing the bread with holiness and setting it above the realm of time itself. We may add that if zerizus can infuse and effect an item being worked upon, all the more so it effects the actual person doing the mitzvah! 

 

This is clear in the ladder of aliyah of R' Pinchas ben Yair (Avodah Zara 20a) that zerizus leads… to Ruach Hakodesh. It is the spark plug that ignites and energizes a chain reaction of middos culminating even beyond Ruach Hakodesh.

 

Amazingly, the very first Medrash Rabbah in Shir HaShirim, (and the following many medrashim) are all on this passuk in Mishlei! חזית איש מהיר במלאכתו לפני מלכים יתיצב - Suggesting that Shlomo's zerizus led him to the lofty Ruach Hakodesh bringing him to Shir Hashirim the ultimate שיר  called קודש קדשים . 

 


The medrash relates as well a story with R' Chanina ben Dosa,who was known for his poverty, and was inspired by many people passing his home bringing their offerings to the bes Hamikdash. He could not afford any sacrifices, but would not settle to do nothing. He found and cut a large stone, chiseled and polished it by hand and then sought men to carry it to Yerushalayim. The price was exorbitant, but he could not rest. Hashem sent five angels as men who offered to transport it for 5 shekel and upon its acceptance by the Chachamim, they paid on his behalf and commented חזית איש מהיר במלאכתו לפני מלכים יתיצב - לפני מלאכים - The Zariz merits to be joined by angels!

 

We can't attain those levels of Ruach Hakodesh and angelic revelations, but the true Zariz is inspired with a Ruach HaKodesh to understand רצון ה'. Without instruction the industrious, zealous ants fulfill their mission and don't need a קצין שוטר ומושל to tell them what to do. But they are נתיצב לפני המלך, not a supervisor, law enforcement or even a Moshel, who micromanages and controls those under them, but לפני מלכים - the Zariz is always before The King. And he always is aware of what The King wants even without The King having to command him.

 

The Malbim explains, that the Zariz who merits to stand in service of The King reaches true cheirus from the servitude of mankind and even his own desires. The Zariz realizes that all other pursuits are not his calling בל יתיצב לפני חשוכים - He is in servitude of Hashem alone, the ultimate Cheirus.

The morning after Pesach we have a specific duty of zerizus to awaken early to once again grab the mitzvah of Tefillin and more specifically this year we also are encouraged to start the day early to prepare for Shabbos.

With the seemingly simple act of the first halacha in Shulchan Aruch, יתגבר כארי לעמוד בבוקר לעבודת הבורא שיהא הוא מעורר השחר  one is following in the ways of צדיקים אשר הולכים לפני אלוקים. With simply being זריזים מקדימים למצוות - by preceding mitzvos over one's own "bucket list" or "to do list", it can spark the chain reaction leading to Divine Inspiration to know what Hashem WANTS even without an actual mitzvah commanding you. 

This was the middah of Pinchas, who understood the WILL of Hashem and he merited to become Eliyahu who will be mevaser us very soon to the last step of R' Pinchas ben Yair's ladder - רוח הקודש מביא לידי תחיית המתים B'mheirah B'yameinu Amen. 



Sunday, April 5, 2026

SHABBOS HAGADOL 86 RECLINING AND CHEIRUS

1) We all know that Pesach is זמן חירותינו – What does Cheirus mean?
2) Are there four questions or five? The mishnah says כאן הבן שואל yet our children preface the Mah Nishtanah with טאטע... דער פיר קשיות – Sheilos or Kassyos?
3) הסיבה –Rambam 7.3 and the Rema 472.6 say we should recline throughout our meal at the seder. And although the ר' אבי'ה is brought that nowadays we are not used to this expression of comfort, it is quite clear that we only rely on this b’dieved – which means after the fact - once we already mistakenly ate or drank without reclining, we might not have to repeat, in certain cases. Cups 1,3, & 4 aren’t repeated because of the appearance of adding a 5th cup, and Afikomen is not repeated because it is forbidden to eat after Afikoman.
4) However, if one forgot to (or did not properly) recline by Motzi Matzoh, even if he already finished the entire seder and bentched, he would have to wash once again and eat matzoh reclining! (And according to some, the whole order may have to be redone, as the matzoh that was eaten did not count and the matzoh that one eats needs to have had the Hagaddah said over it!)
5) What is the source of such importance given to reclining? That it should even disqualify one’s mitzvah of אכילת מצה  which is d’oraisa?
6) Additionally, the gemara pesachim 108a absolves women but states an אשה חשובה must recline. However it seems to be taken a bit unserious with our נשי חיל if it is done at all and how they perform the הסיבה if they do. It is a very serious question if they are absolved. The Rema writes לא נהגו because they rely upon the ר'אב'ה but it doesn’t seem well founded, and it may entirely disqualify their mitzvah of matzoh!
7) To understand the distinction between a simple woman or an אשה חשובה  we really should examine what the reason is for the gemara to absolve women in the first place. The sefer אור חדש (a contemporary of the Noda B’Yehudah brought in the Kovetz Mefarshim) asks threefold regarding their exemption. 
i) If it is because אימת בעלה עליה, does a women have more respect and fear of her husband than a son to his father?  Yet a son must recline in the presence of this father!
ii) If it is because she is not accustomed to reclining throughout the year, neither is a pauper! And yet the poorest of Jews must recline!
iii) If it is because she is serving and not in a position to recline, even an actual servant does have to recline!
Based on these, his only solution is perhaps she is similar to servant, but a male server who actually reads the Haggadah and says Hashem took him out of mitzrayim, must recline in accordance with his own words. But a woman who (generally) could not read and just hears the Haggadah from her husband, would not have to lean.
8) This obviously does not apply to our women nowadays. So how could they not recline? 
9) So let’s go to the source halacha for reclining. 
Mishnah Pesachim 99b – ערבי פסחים סמוך למנחה לא יאכל אדם עד שתחשך. אפילו עני שבישראל לא יאכל עד שיסב. 
10) The questions abound. Why doesn’t the mishnah say straightforwardly everyone must recline? Why is it written in the negative – not to eat until reclining? Why is the source and primary subject of this halacha a pauper? And why doesn’t the mishnah blend these two halachos together? “Erev pesach afternoon even a pauper may not eat until reclining”? This would include both the halacha for all to save their appetite and for all to recline? 
11) It seems to be two separate halachos; One regarding erev yom tov’s appetite preservation until dark. And second, after nightfall, on yom tov, don’t eat without reclining.
12) In Shulchan Aruch as well it seems split. 471.1 - Make sure the table is set beforehand to enable a quick start. 472.2 – Set the table beautifully and prepare the seating in order to recline in the fashion of cheirus. The Rema then adds that even a pauper without cushions must recline on his bench. This does not seem to be a matter of preparation on erev yom tov but just practically, he must do so when he eats on yom tov. 
13) Why does a pauper need to recline – especially if he does not have the ability to do so comfortably? The Rambam clearly says reclining is part of להראות את עצמו כאילו הוא יצא – (some suggest this is d’oraisa!) and a matter of comfort, and perhaps a pauper who cannot do so comfortably would be absolved. But although the mechaber clearly says to prepare comfortable הסיבה for the rich, the Rema clearly requires the עני to recline even without comfort. It seems that there is an additional factor to הסיבה expressed in the עני that although exists by regular people as well, it goes unnoticed. THIS may be the foundational reason for הסיבה and therefore the source halacha for הסיבה is expressed in the עני specifically. What is it?
14) (The B’er Moshe explains that the main Cheirus that occurred and that we celebrate, is spiritual and this is brought out in the lack of physical appearance of cheirus in the pauper’s reclining. Although in physical or financial status we are different, yet כולנו מסובים – we are all equal doing הסיבה as spiritually we all were freed from the spiritual slavery of Egypt to the freedom of spirit as עבדי ה' .)
15)  The source mishnah for הסיבה has an interesting note from the מלאכת שלמה who brings another girsa – not עד שיסב with a kumatz and tzeirey, rather with a pasach and tzeirei. This suggests that the pauper is not reclining in comfort but must recline himself. This aligns with those that say he is required even when not in comfort. But why?
16) This attention to the very specific nuances in reclining led me to a whole new understanding of הסיבה. There’s an amazing Medrash Rabbah Shemos 20.18 on the beginning words of bishalach. ויסב א'... – מכאן אמרו רבותינו אפילו עני שבישראל לא יאכל עד שיסב – This is astounding. Hashem made a circuitous route for the Jews and from here Chazal say that we need הסיבה??? Some say this means that at that point Hashem caused the yidden to be able to eat in a leisurely manner as opposed to the “eat & run” manner in which they ate as slaves until now. But this remains astounding as this was either still the first day of the exodus or the following day. The passuk (shemos 12.34) says משארותם צרורות בשמלותם על שכמם and we are suggesting they sat down to eat proper meals and reclined?
17)  However, there is an amazing Rashi and מזרחי  here. הסיבם מן הדרך הפשוטה לדרך העקומה – Says the Mizrachi, Rashi is telling us that ויסב does not stem from the word סיבוב meaning to turn, but rather like ואתה הסיבות את ליבם (מלכים יח לז) which means a complete uprooting and change of heart. העתקה מענין לענין. This opens up entirely new approach to הסיבה for ourselves and may answer why the primary source case is the עני and why women may be absolved.
18)  Another Medrash Rabbah (Shemos 20.11) sheds a bit more light. ולא נחם א' דרך ארץ  - Hashem did not allow them to follow “Derech Eretz”. - the norms of the world. The derech eretz is that a master acquires a servant to carry, bathe, anoint and light the way for the master. Yet Hashem carried Klall Yisrael, bathed…lit the way… etc for the Yidden, His slaves!
19) The 15th of Nissan is a night of absolute change! It was the true night of ונהפוך הוא of Purim (and the first surprise of all, when Yakov was switched with Eisav). 
20) The Aruch Hashulchan 472.3 quotes the famed ר' אביה but states that his reasoning that nowadays we are not accustomed to הסיבה , is all the more reason to REQUIRE reclining! To show how different this night is! He proves this based on the fact that reclining was not one of the four questions in the times of chazal, since it was more normal then. Additionally, the requirement of the pauper to recline, proves that not being accustomed to it is not a reason to be absolved at all.
21)  Based on this, I would like to add that if the underlying meaning of הסיבה in not חירות as comfort (although it certainly is the main reason according to the Rambam and it also is n additional factor as well according to the Rema,) but as a change from the norms, then all the more so the pauper’s reclining is THE exemplary case that expresses the true essence of הסיבה more than anyone! This is why his example is the source halacha for leaning, because for him more than anyone else it is העתקה מענין לענין a complete change from the norms! 
22) Perhaps we can now offer a novel idea as to why a typical wife may be absolved. For a typical עיקרת הבית with all the Pesach preparations on her head, it would be most understandable and expected for her to finally recline on Pesach after all has finally been done! There would be no element of surprise or העתקה at all! So, coupled with the fact that it is not the derech of comfort nowadays, both reasons would have her absolved. While an אשה חשובה presumably had a lot of help around the house, there is no reason to assume she would need to finally rest on the sofa and recline, and therefore, doing so would be a surprise and change, the perfect characteristic of the seder night.
23) To illustrate this, R’ Chaim Kanievsky says that the reason there is no question about the 4 cups, is because it is normal on Yomim Tovim to drink, and so it is no question at all.
24) The Seder Hayom warns how careful one must be in his expression of questions. As a slight nuance makes the difference between the chacham and the rasha! So it bothered me a bit the language we use for the Mah Nishtanah. The Mishnah 116a says כאן הבן שואל which is a very proper way to ask a curious shailah. So why is that we clearly refer to the 4 as Kushyos – טאטע לעבן איך ויל פרעגען די פיער קשיות!
25) The 4 קשיות themselves are not in need of answers! We don’t ask them as true challenges that need clarification. A Yid fregged nit kein kashyas! Rather just one curiosity – a shailah –  comes up. What is the one reason we are doing all these four contradictory customs?
26) And truthfully the answer is that all these strange contradictions is is part of the changes we do כדי שישאלו but why?  
27) Let us dig a bit deeper into the importance of change on this night. The Gemara 114b clearly states that Karpas as  היכירא לתינוקות is not called a Mitzvah. (The fact that R’ Yehudah requires a second dipping as a mitzvah is proof that the mitzvah was not fulfilled earlier due to מצוות צריכות כוונה and he did not mean it for the children to notice.) We also remove the K’ara as a שינוי from the norm. and in Shulchan Aruch these are required but not called a mitzvah. Yet, the halacha brought earlier on 108b, to distribute nuts and treats to keep the children awake so they come to ask questions, is called a mitzvah in Shulchan Aruch 472.16! (The Rambam puts them all together as צריך לעשות שינוי... כיצד..) I would like to suggest, that the keep them up is likened to a הכשר and part of the mitzvah sippur – to ensure they are up to ask so we can answer. However the general שינוים that we do are not just a means to get them to ask to lead into sippur. The changes we make are definitive of the entire character of the night! It is much broader than a specific mitzvah – we change how we do things because tonight IS all about change for the normal. How different tonight is from all the other nights!
28) Why is change so definitive of this night? Yalkut Shimoni  bishalach towards the end of 226 brings a similar drush regarding ולא נחם א' דרך ארץ – Derech Eretz is that water comes from above and bread from below, but Hashem brought them water from below and bread from above! – This Medrash shows even more than mentioned earlier. The earlier medrash Rabbah could be understand as simply as instead of Hashem, our Master needing service from us, He gave His service to us. But here we see that in general, Hashem wanted to take the b’nei Yisrael in a manner that is just simply NOT NORMAL. Bread from the sky and water from the rocks below! Just absolute complete changes from the norm. 
29) WHY? The medrash continues…כי קרוב הוא – because Hashem is our קרוב. We are “family” with Hashem. Makkas Bechoros and our redemption showed us that WE ARE NOT PART OF GENERAL HUMANITY. We are not homo sapiens! We are בני בכורי ישראל! We are alien to this world! We are superheroes with super human capabilities! WE ARE NOT “NORMAL”! We are a whole entire different breed from the human society at large! And so our birth as a nation was with numerous. needless, absolute changes from the norm. 

30) R’ Nachman of Breslov tells a parable of a king and his advisor who became aware of the fact the supply of grain that everyone was eating was causing them to become delirious and to lose their minds. He was concerned that at some point he and his advisor would be identified as the crazy ones since they would be the only ones sane! So he decided to act delirious like them all, but to mark their own foreheads with something noticeable to remind themselves that they are the normal ones. The world around us is delirious and we are a whole different breed. We may act along the lines of the crazy society we live in, but we leave noticeable marks to remind ourselves that were different.
31) R’ Handelsman once came into Yeshivah with a tremendous excitement. He was the target of a minor antisemitic attack with empty soda cans thrown at him. He was exuberant that he was clearly distinguishable as not normal! He is different from society and noticeably so!
32) There is a very strong connection between Tzitzis and the daily Zecher l’yetzias mitzrayim fulfilled alongside it in the last parsha of Shema.
33) The 4 defined lines and borders of the begged tzitzis shows that we live in the confines of society. We live and largely act “in the box”. But the strange strings extend beyond to show that even in the regular hum drum of societal life, at least our minds are not bound. We extend our perception to the ים, רקיע and all the way to the כסא הכבוד.
34) But on the night of Pesach, our Matzos are round. Not just because it works out that way. R’ Shlomoh Kluger held that machine matzos are problematic because they are square! The passuk refers to matzo as עוגות מצות and עוג means circular. One reason for the circle suggests that although there seemed to have been a very clearly defined measure to our gallus – 400 years, only Hashem is חישב את הקץ to us it was like a circle - we could not define the beginning or the end.
35) But perhaps the circle also signifies that WE are not bound by definitive borders! We are truly symbolized by the infinite circle! On the night of Pesach we don’t conform at all to society’s limits! On Pesach we we show that tonight we became and now are OUT OF THE BOX!
36) This is the reason why the pauper is THE QUINTESSENTIAL example and source halacha for Heseibah. Tonight’s NOT NORMAL!
37) This actually is quite definitive of true cheirus itself. It is not simply about an easing of physical hardships and labor. It is about not being bound. To anyone or anything. A person can work extremely hard and still be a free man is he has the ability to quit. And a servant of a king who lives a life of luxury is still bound in slavery so long as he may not quit. Complete cheirus is free of anything that binds our mind and character from true ability to choose to be different. (Interestingly, or cheirus for ultimate bechirah chofshis was brought in tandem with the one time in history that someone lost his bechirah entirely – Pharoah.) 
38) We are crazy. We are not bound by norms. We are never stuck. We always can change. Tonight we learn to expect the unexpected. To Question the status quo. To encourage curiosity and creativity and not to be stuck in the past.
39) In summary, heseibah is not primarily about comfort. It is about changing from the bondage of past norms. It calls out thw message of the night. We are not bound! We are never stuck! We can always make new and different choices from the past or from other's expectations. We are truly the only free nation and we are out of this world. 


PS - I wonder now if perhaps heseibah was NEVER the normal way to eat. It would seem derech eretz, natural, to eat vertically assisting . Perhaps the whole culture of the wealthy to eat reclining was more of an act of defiance and NOT being bound or succumbing to the expectations of the societal or natural norms. 


From <https://d.docs.live.net/8608057176b81e42/OD%20Documents/OD%20dovis%20writings/Shabbos%20Hagadol%205786%20Reclining%20and%20cheirus.docx> 

Tuesday, February 17, 2026

MISHPATIM אוזן ששמע - PAY ATTENTION

  

MISHPATIM 

אוזן ששמע - PAY ATTENTION

I was bothered a bit by the fact that we seem to reverse the order of נעשה ונשמע every day when we say Krias Shema - we first say שמע and after we are mekabel עול מצוות.

But a more bothersome question has been noted by everyone and that is why do we pierce the if we say אוזן ששמע… - Which means the EAR HEARD! The language of the this drasha suggests that the EAR DID do its job! It is the miind or heart of the Eved that missed the boat and did not take the message of עבדי הם  or לא תגנובו to heart!

 

We are all familiar with two types of שמיעה- hearing and accepting or understanding. ( "herring and derherring") However, the eved certainly simply heard, and the "der-herring is a process of the mind and heart not his ear!

 

Based on a shmooze from the Mashgiach שליט''א, we can understand a whole new third approach to שמיעה as well. 

In Parshas Bishalach it says והאזנת - Rashi explains תטה אזנים לדקדק - bend your ear to discern דק - finer meaning in the words you hear. This is not about the understanding. It is about how to initially listen. PAY ATTENTION. Give enough importance, appreciation and love to the words so that you LISTEN better, in order to discern deeper "eidele" meaning in them. The Targum on the word והאזנת  is אצית - a focused listening with attention. (In other places like והיה אים שמוע תשמעו , the Targum is קבילו - accepting the information that is heard and taking it to heart.)

This actual type of LISTENING was lacking from the eved. If he would have paid full attention to עבדי הם - he would have discerned ולא עבדים לעבדים.

 

It is interesting to note that שמע ישראל actually does not have a translation in Targum. It just says שמע. Perhaps it is the first שמיעה  - to listen attentively to what you are saying - as it follows with love. (Whereas נעשה ונשמע  us the third step in the process accepting, understanding and taking to heart.) This is Kabolas Malchus Shamayim - being loyal and interested not only in what the simple words say, demand, or command, but to attentively listen with love to discern what our King wants. 

Perhaps it means to simply hear the words that your mouth is saying as the gemara says l'chatchilah all agree Shema should be said audibly.

Perhaps it means to accept and take to heart.

Perhaps it means all 3 or perhaps a different meaning for different types of people… 


Sunday, February 1, 2026

SAFEGUARDING SHABBOS MAKES IT YOURS

It is noted by many that when Shabbos was first described as שבת היום לה' - a day that is for HASHEM, some people went out and desecrated it. But then Shabbos is described as ה' נתן לכם השבת - a day that Hashem has given to YOU, all the Jews kept it. This certainly shows the importance of realizing that Shabbos is a gift for us and this realization dismisses any challengea of its obvervance.
However the Mechilta sounds a bit different. ה' נתן לכם השבת - שתשמרוה . This doesn't sound like the לכם we had in mind...
I believe there's an amazing insight here. How or why does the medrash learn שמירה from לכם ?
I would like to suggest, how does shabbos become ours? If Hashem is giving it to us as a gift, what קנין - act of acquisition is there for it to become לכם ?
This is what the medrash is telling us! The acquisition of shabbos is שתשמריהו! Shmirah does not mean to KEEP shabbos, it means to SAFEGUARD shabbos. When one accepts the responsibility of shmirah upon something, it becomes theirs to some extent. We find this by chometz on pesach and in general we know that the responsibility over the item takes effect with a kinyan that establishes the relationship between the receipient and the item.
The medrash is telling us that perhaps keeping the laws of shabbos is ok and renders you a kosher observant Jew, but shabbos only becomes YOURS as a gift from Hashem when you not only keep it but when you accept to SAFEGUARD it. Not only from your own desecration but also from others!
May I ads that this passuk actually specifies o ly one aspect of shabbos to safeguard - הוצאה. Some learn this passuk as hinting to the melacha of transferring objects and some say it refers to Techum Shabbos. Both are uniquely viewed as being the 'lightest' desecrations of shabbos.
This is what is meant by safeguarding Shabbos. Not only to prevent coarse obvious chilul, but keeping Shabbos safe from any breach.
We have this opportunity no in our community. Not only to observe Shabbos for ourselves but to care and try to promote its sanctity, safeguarding it from the sadly common desecration of carrying on shabbos.

Saturday, January 10, 2026

Shemos - HARMFUL REBOUNDS

 

Shemos 2.13 HARMFUL REBOUNDS

ויאמר לרשע למה תכה ריעך - It is interesting to note the use of the word ריעך  here, where seemingly these people were far from being called friends. Rashi notes this and says the victim was not his comrade but  רשע כמותך. Perhaps we may also glean from here that often we fight, hit, insult and hurt those are closest to us because of the safe assumption that it won't really affect anything. We think to ourselves, "They'll come around. We're family. He needs me. She'll bounce back." But similar to the one who raised his hand but did not physically harm his fellow, is deemed a Rasha, the Torah is teaching us that WITHOUT  any apparent damage and with no permanent effects visible, you might think "no harm done". But it is not so. An innocuous invisible damage HAS taken place. And the assailant is called a Rasha even with היזק שאינו ניכר.

SHEMOS - ESCALATION IN DISPUTE

 ESCALATION IN DISPUTE 

Shemos 2.13

ויאמר לרשע - We are all familiar with the Rashi based on the gemara Sanhedrin 58b, that one who lifts his hand to hit another Jew is called a Rasha even without actually hitting his victim. 

This always seemed a bit extreme and thus difficult to properly digest and learn from.

 

However, it is brought in Shulchan Aruch חו''מ ל''ד ד'  as psak Halacha from the Rema, that one who does so is disqualified מדרבנן from testimony!

One who actually hits another Jew is disqualified מן התורה as he pro-actively transgressed a לא תעשה that would be deserving of makkos. This renders the title רשע  upon him and he is therefore passul for eidus.

 

However, R' Yechiel Michel Stern asks why the Rasha in our case is only Rabbinically disqualified? One who raised his hand against another is unequivocally called a Rasha by the Torah itself, without having to come onto the normal route of transgressing a lo sasseh to get there!

 

I would like to suggest a new approach that also has a very clear lesson to learn as well. 

 

We find a concept of צדיק באותו דין  regarding the judgement of Rosh Hashanah. In which a person who may generally be considered a Rasha, but in the specific judgement of חיים  or מות  of that year he is deemed Tzaddik and lives. The reverse is true as well. Similarly, the concept is clear in the passuk which the gemara makkos 2b uses as a hint to עדים זוממים defaulting to get makkos - והצדיקו את הצדיק והרשיעו את הרשע… . The simple understanding of this passuk is in a dispute between two individuals and one is found to be in the right and the other is found to be in the wrong. This is not a general description of character, but a relative title in the specific dispute.

 

Based on this we can safely explain that our passuk is not extreme at all and is informing us of a very practical lesson. 

When two people are arguing it may be that one is right and the other wrong, both may have valid points or both may be wrong. But as soon as one lifts his hand to hit the other, he has escalated the dispute from just verbal to the realm of physical. And even without actually harming the other, his escalation deems him the wrong one in this dispute and the other is in the right since he remained in the realm of just arguing with words. 


Wednesday, January 7, 2026

Vayechi – Chevrah

 Vayechi – Chevrah 

R' Chaim Kanievsky brings from a Medrash, that when Yakov spoke to Reuven as ראשית אוני , he prophesied about the men of shevet Reuvein who would join Korach in the claim for Kehunah.  Only און would be saved from amongst them as his wife would separate him as one would separate challah from dough. Hence, ראשית - like the separation of challah ראשית עריסותיכם - אוני  will designate און to be My און.

 

There is a tremendous lesson to be learned here. The metaphor of Hafrashas Challah brings to mind the example that dough serves in the separation of Klal Yisrael from the Egyptians at Yetzias Mitzrayim. The Torah describes the wonderous extraction of  גוי מקרב גוי  as a unique event that only Hakadosh Baruch Hu could do. Separating און from the group of 250 tribesmen was a virtually impossible task. The draw of social connection and sense of belonging is so powerful that disrupting און's friendship, and severing his bond from this unified group just could not happen. 

Except through his wife. 

The way to pull some sticky dough apart from the rest can only be with something even more sticky attaching itself and pulling in the other direction. Only the greatest bond of an אשת חיל  who is אשתו כגופו  can draw her husband from the mire and muck of negative friendships and relationships. רעים אהובים  can have a stronger pull than all the mussar, tochacha and warnings in the world.

 

This is a tremendous lesson in the dangers of bad friendships and social connections and importance of building positive ones. And it is an empowering message to the N'shei Chayil of Klal Yisrael that their unique bond can be smartly used to overcome the greatest challenges that we face in our surroundings. 

 

p.s. It's interesting to note that און's wife who used a bit immodesty to save her husband from wrogly pursuing Kehunah, returned as the mother of 7 sons who served as Kohanim gedolim in the second bes Hamikdash, in the merit of her meticulous modesty. Her name, reminiscent of hafrashas challah, was קמחית. 


Thursday, November 20, 2025

TOLDOS - EISAV'S PREDISPOSITION

Tuesday, November 11, 2025

BYA SHABBATON – IT’S NOT ABOUT THE BUTTONS

 BYA SHABBATON – IT’S NOT ABOUT THE BUTTONS

מי שטרח בערב שבת יאכל בשבת

 

The basic concept of preparing is very simple. If you work on something in advance you achieve and if not you lose.

But don't we find instances otherwise?  -  יש קנה עולמו בשעה אחת גמ' ע''ז יז. -  The truth is that there are such rare instances - יש - it may happen but it is certainly not to be relied upon. Most sinners who think they will surely one day repent and be zocheh to Olam Habah, usually DON'T. Hashem does not assist in the teshuvah of one who says אחטא ואשוב and without Hashem's assistance the future is bleak. 

I recently visited a shivah house (which probably was not a halachically mandated mourning) for a man who lived a very free-style irreligious life into his nineties, and he did not make any statement of regret or viduy. To the contrary, he demanded to be buried at the bottom of the sea.

So certainly the "way to go" is with preparation. 

But even so, it seems like the rare ones who achieve their lofty goal in one moment are surely the lucky ones! 

 

So why is it that R' Meir cried upon hearing the heavenly voice declaring their place in Olam Haba? It is NOT because R' Meir was jealous of this lucky man's lot. Rather, says the Maharsha, he felt bad for the individual. If he could achieve Olam Habah in such a short moment how much more could he have achieved if he would've lived a full life of Torah & mitzvos!

 

I'd like to suggest another reason to be sad for this UNLUCKY person who did not prepare throughout his life.

 

A story is told about a woman who desperately needed a blessing for her infant son from the  Chofetz Chaim. He told her that Shabbos has the source of blessing to bring his salvation and to prepare everything for Shabbos early, so that by noon every Friday, the house would be tranquil and fully set for Shabbos. 

The Chofetz Chaim writes that from the time a person begins his preparations for Shabbos, the spirit of Shabbos already takes some effect. (Gehinom itself will cease for such a person from the time he started his preps!)

From here we see a whole new perspective on preparations. The become PART of the goal itself! It is not two distinct, separate activities, rather they blend together to become part of the whole experience. When we prepare for an exciting trip, vacation or camp, the preparations carry the same excitement as the goal itself! 

 

I'd like to suggest an insight into the gemara of מי שטרח בערב שבת יאכל בשבת  - Hashem said these words as a rebuke to the Non-Jews who seek reward in olam haba. Hashem calls them שוטים ! To thinnk they can get reward without putting in the effort beforehand, is such a foolish assumption that even Goyim are rebuked for thinking so. 

But even more than this, the entire concept of מי שטרח is really a Non- Jewish concept. Work today to be paid tomorrow is a very poor, shallow perception of life. 

A person who lives enriched with Torah values and perception sees it very differently. Every effort and activity in preparation is not a toil or an unavoidable headache, but an exciting part of the process!

We don't call erev Shabbos preps טירחה but rather a much more positive word - הכנה! This is the word Yosef Hatzaddik used when his brothers came to Egypt. This the word Moshe used when the Mann fell on Friday. This is the word we should use for preparing for Shabbos and our entire life for Olam Haba - HYPE.

 

It is part and parcel of Shabbos itself. And so too EVERY SINGLE THING we do in our lifetime can be l'shem shamayim, as part of building our eternal palace. 

Chanoch was the quintessential embodiment of chinuch - not separate acts in training for the future, but chinuch is a concept of inauguration, the beginning of the goal itself. He was the ultimate Ben Olam Haba - he went alive to heaven, without a dividing line between the worldly activities of olam hazeh and the eternal joy of olam haba. On him it was said that as he stitched shoes to their soles, he was מייחד יחודיים unifying the Heavens. R' Yeruchom Levovitz explains that although this is a deep mystical concept, it also means that his perfect intent on honest quality work for his customers was actually what brought heaven and earth together.

 

The story of R' Elchanan's button was a message to simple unlearned Jew - it's not about the buttons. But for a Torah enriched mind, every one of a person's buttons throughout life can actually be a diamond. 

 

Preparing for Olam Haba should not be viewed as a טירחה - a burden of prerequisites to attain a goal. We can van and should view everything we do with the concept of Ben Olam Haba - we are infusing everything with the excitement, thrill, and hype of the dream goal itself.

 

It's never too early to build hype for Shabbos. You're not too young to infuse your life to become the next Mrs Fedder or Rebbetzin Reisman. 

Every moment of your life now can be steps inaugurating the most amazing wife in the world and the greatest Jewish mother your children can wish for!

Build hype for Shabbos & build hype for life!


Friday, October 31, 2025

Lech Lecha - Don't SAY Thank You

 Lech Lecha - Don't SAY Thank You

We find a few times in this parsha  ויבן שם מזבח - Avraham built numerous altars, one for each prophecy of good news. R' Gamliel Rabinovich points out the clear message that it does not suffice to just yell or sing "TYH" (or a bumper sticker, rubber band or ____________ (fill in the blank). Something has to be DONE!

Additionally, Avraham didn’t just do a passing act but built something of permanence. It also wasn't מצבות - one stone monuments that he erected, but מזבחות that are built up. 

Megillas Ta'anis was a recording of the days that we may not fast or say Tachanun due to various miracles that occurred on many different dates throughout the years. It was dissolved because there were so many miracles, that we could never fast! 

Baruch Hashem the lovingkindness that each of ourselves and our families experience are so abundant, it would certainly be difficult to build so many structures as our thankfulness should demand. 

But we are not excused.

Very small permament commitments have the same effect. They amass a huge structure built of so many deeds! Each new small commitment becomes its very own מזבח that elevates us to serve Hashem more intimately than before. We are Olah as Korbanos Shelamim upon those altars we build.


Thank Hashem! - And build your own Mizbe'ach.

NOACH - INFLUENCE

 NOACH - איש האדמה 

In an entire year of animal care Noach did not become a zoologist, but in a few moments of farming he became איש אדמה

a) While busy in the teivah taking care of others, he did not absorb their lower nature. As when a vessel is "busy" expelling and ejecting flavors it does not absorb. So too, when the focus is entirely on being mashpiah, it prevents absorbing hashpa'ah. 

b) When doing something unpleasant the body, and heart works to reject it. When doing something that is perceived as pleasurable we are open to swallow hook line and sinker. The power of hashapa'ah in an enjoyable environment of fun, friendship like in camp or bungalow colonies, or over a meal or at a concert, is tremendous. It may be an amazing tool for giving hashpa'ah or a dangerous pitfall for receiving the wrong hashpa'ah. 

The spoon full of sugar will make anything go down.   

Sunday, October 26, 2025

NOACH – CHESSED

NOACH – CHESSED

Noach 6.14 תעשה את התיבה

The רוקח points out that the word את usually adds an associated subject to the main one being doscussed and therefore, here it is icluding either an additional board upon which Og or perhaps the giant Re'eim were seated upon. He offers another pshatt that seems astounding. An additional small Teivah was build to tag along the "Mothership" and it stored extra food if needed. 

 

What?

It is interesting to note that את התיבה  is mentioned only once more when the ark first rose up upon the water. However it is not mentioned again. It seems perhaps that it didn't even make it through the flood. So what was the point of this additional small teivah?

 

In Birchas Hamazon we say that Hashem gives בחן ובחסד - One was Noach's midah - to give what is needed with grace - "service with a smile". The other was Avraham's midah, to offer more than necessary. 

Perhaps the first instructions from Hashem to Noach was an exercise in Avraham's midah - Chessed. As much food as was brought into the teivah, either it was minimal (as the Gra explains אשר יאכל to mean just one כדי שביעה and it miraculously sufficed) or all that was needed crammed in. Both of these left no room for extras. But as a midah of chessed, when only "enough" is presented, the recipient feels uncomfortable to take. But when an overflowing platter of extra food is offered, then the guest is comfortable to take as much as he would like. 

The only way to exercise this type of giving was to purposefully designate a whole extra unit for extras. This was the purpose of the additional teivah - an act of overflowing chessed to allow all the guests in the teivah to feel comfortable to eat, knowing there are extra reserves and nothing to be concerned about. So once they saw this extra storage at the beginning of the mabul, there really was no need for it to survive the flood.  


Saturday, October 25, 2025

Noach – Hakoras HaTovah

 Noach – Hakoras HaTovah

Noach 11.5 אשר בנו בני האדם

Rashi asks who else could we have thought were building the tower? Rather the Torah is associating them to Adam Harishon who was כפוי טובה - ingrateful to Hashem for his wife, and these people were aslo ingrateful to Hashem who saved them for the mabul and provided them with so much goodness. 

It seems that this is the natural human condition for Bnei HaAdam, (Aznaim LaTorah says this excludes Noach and those who would follow his lead who DID show Hakoras HaTov) for although Hashem gave him the exercise of gratitude when nothing would grow until Adam would appreciate the value of rain, the short lived experience did not instill this trait within the DNA of mankind. 

However as we find our Sages compare Noach to Avraham, we may inspect Avraham's manner of using Hakoras HaTov as the foundation of Avodas Hashem. It worked because he put a clear price tag on what was owed. And only then did he offer to cover the tab if his guests showed appreciation to Hashem. 

 

There are two steps in instilling this midah in ourselves and in the chinuch of our children. One is dispelling the notion of entitlement and recognize that there is some indebtedness for what was done. This hopefully is an easy training - by instructing children (and ourselves) to say thank you. This was the basic level of training for Adam, and yet it still was not absorbed in him. 

However, the true midah is when the Tov received is quantified. It is measured to appreciate the extent of the goodness done and properly express gratitude accordingly. 

 

When someone is not yet a Makir Tovah, it behooves his benefactor to first make him pay and only then offer the gift. This allows the recipient to clearly understand what is owed and yet being given as gift.


Saturday, October 4, 2025

SHUVAH 86 THE PRESENT FUTURE – (CHATGPT ADAPTATION FROM NOTES)

 SHUVAH 86 THE PRESENT FUTURE – CHAT GPT VERSION

שובה ישראל עד ה׳ — this refers to the ultimate level of teshuvah, teshuvah mei’ahavah, that reaches the highest place, the כסא הכבוד.

The Dibros Moshe in Yoma, siman 11, anaf 4, discusses whether this level is actually required — and less is only bedieved — or whether it is simply an elevated level.

In Ki Savo, 30:2, we find the phrase: ושבת עד ה׳... בכל נפשך. This language, like that in Shema, implies actual self-sacrifice.

Rav Chaim Volozhiner, in his drush for Selichos, suggests that one must even be willing to give up his life for teshuvah if necessary.

The Gemara in Avodah Zarah 17a tells of one who returned from מינות and died — Rabbi Eliezer ben Durdaya — whose death came as he was so attached to his sinful ways. This supports Rav Chaim Volozhiner’s idea.

Similarly, the Smak (mitzvah 3) relates that the students of Rabbi Yehudah HaChassid gave their lives to repent for misusing Divine Names.

The Sharei Teshuvah (1:11, ikar 2) writes that the essence of teshuvah is to abandon sin — ויגמור בכל לבבו — and to fully commit never to do it again.

The Rambam in Hilchos Teshuvah (1:1) writes ולעולם איני חוזר, and again in 2:2, ויגמור בליבו.

The source passuk is Yeshayahu 55:7 — יעזוב איש דרכו. The Ibn Ezra explains that only abandoning the ways that led to sin in the past constitutes full teshuvah.

But this seems to require merely abandoning one’s plans for sin, not necessarily a positive commitment never to do it again. So where do the Rambam and Rabbeinu Yonah derive the requirement for an active commitment for the future?

The source is in the Yerushalmi at the end of Yoma and in Vayikra Rabbah 3:3, regarding the viduy of Yom Kippur — עוד לא אעשה. However, that only mentions the language of viduy.

Even though we understand the Rambam (2:3) and Rabbeinu Yonah (1:11), who both give the mashal that not abandoning our plans to sin is like holding a carcass in the mikvah — it should still suffice to abandon plans or aspirations to sin. Why do they both require an absolute commitment for the future?

Even within the mashal itself — to purify, one would not need to commit to never touching a carcass again! So why is that needed for teshuvah?

Yet we do see that the need to commit to the future in one’s viduy, or at least to incorporate it in thought while saying viduy, is clear from Rav Chaim Kanievsky. He was asked why the Rambam doesn’t mention the future in the viduy of Yom Kippur (2:8). Rav Chaim answered that with absolute regret in the viduy, the future commitment is already incorporated.

Rav Moshe was asked why this is not reflected in our text of the Yom Kippur viduy, and he answered that indeed it should be said — perhaps, as we’ll see later, the viduy of Yom Kippur is different.

An even stronger issue is the well-known principle that Hashem judges only the present — באשר הוא שם (Vayeira 21:17) — and not based on future deficiencies.

So we need a new understanding of באשר הוא שם and how it relates to future commitments.

Rashi brings from Bereishis Rabbah (53:14) the angels’ claim that Yishmael would one day cause Jewish death through thirst — and yet he was given water now? Rav Chaim Kanievsky (Derech Sicha, here) was asked: since when do angels know the distant future? He answered, “If Hashem wants, they can know.” Meaning, Hashem went out of His way to expose the future to the angels here, and then to diffuse their claim with the response — “Who cares about the future?”

We also find a strong association of time — past and future — with viduy. Viduy requires confessing the past and declaring the future. The first hoda’ah in the Torah was said by Leah with the word הפעם, and the last viduy in the Torah appears when something was completed — כי תכלה.

And teshuvah itself is hinted to with the word ועתה — the present.

The Maharal in Nesiv HaTeshuvah (ch. 5) explains that man is unpredictable. He can sway one way and then the other — until viduy. By saying “I used to sin,” he removes the yetzer from himself and gives himself over to Hashem. What is it about viduy that does this?

Rav Yerucham (Daas Torah, Chumash, vol. 3 p.128) and Rav Wolbe (Maamarei Yemei Ratzon, “Shofaros”) explain that the shofar represents revelation — the revelation of potential into practical: at the Akeidah, at Sinai, and ultimately, the revelation of our own spirit and soul hidden beneath the physical.

The shofar reveals that our רוח — our soul — is our truest essence, while the body is only a cloak, a מלבוש.

The Mesilas Yesharim, in his section on teshuvah, writes that regret functions like hataras nedarim — the regret removes the daas from the original vow or sin, as though it were done by another person, or by a shoteh. What is miraculous about this is that the change of mind — the revelation of the true self — occurs in the present, yet it removes the daas from the past.

This is the meaning of the Gemara in Rosh Hashanah 16b and the Rambam (2:4) that שינוי השם tears up decrees — because the person is now truly identified as a different being than the one who sinned. Or perhaps, the one who sinned was never the real me — that wasn’t the authentic self.

When one only regrets, he may fall back, as the Maharal noted — רשעים מלאים חרטה הם. But when one makes a statement of viduy, it places a time stamp on the present — ועתה — as Rav Yisrael Salanter said: “איז נישט נאר בעסער, נאר אנדריש” — I am not merely better, I am different. My current essence is changed. The past — חטאתי לה׳ — was wrong, but that is not who I am now, and not who I will be going forward.

The revelation of an authentic viduy identifies that the sin and the person doing teshuvah are not the same person. (If the sin was so intrinsic to him, its removal would indeed cause the soul’s departure from the body.)

The Midrash in Vayikra Rabbah 3:3 gives two analogies for this viduy that includes both regret for the past and commitment for the future.

Rav Yitzchak says: כאדם שהוא מלחים שני נסרים ומדביקן זה לזה — like one who smooths two surfaces so perfectly that they bond. The Pirush Maharzu explains this as the phenomenon now known as “van der Waals forces” or “cold welding” — in a vacuum, two perfectly smooth and clean surfaces can fuse into one continuous piece.

This analogy gives new insight. When one truly identifies with his spirit, it is not confined by time as the body is. In the world of spirit, היה, הווה, ויהיה all exist simultaneously — like frames of a long video, all present, though our finite perception only sees the current frame.

If we smooth out the “bumps” of the past through regret and commit to a smooth, clean future, all frames — our entirety — become clear and unified, bonding perfectly with Hashem — שובה ישראל עד ה׳ אלוקיך — up to the כסא הכבוד.

The atoms, as it were, don’t “know” they belong to different pieces. It recalls Yechezkel 1:14 — והחיות רצוא ושוב כמראה הבזק — and the angels ascending and descending on Yaakov’s ladder, as Yaakov himself was attached to the כסא הכבוד.

This reveals a new dimension of באשר הוא שם. Perhaps a person is judged by his current level, but there is a deeper truth: when there is absolute regret for the past and absolute commitment for the future, the entirety of the person — past, present, and future — is perfect in the present.

Hashem may know that the person will change, and that a later version may falter again — yet in this moment, his soul is revealed as completely pure. That is what Hashem showed the angels about Yishmael’s future: they saw future wrongdoing, but Hashem said that in his present state, his entire self — his totality — is pure.

This understanding — that viduy reveals a new self, utterly clean across all time — seems inconsistent with the practice of repeating viduy year after year. After all, if one has been redefined, why repeat?

Yet the Gemara in Yoma 86b records two opinions — the Chachamim and Rabbi Eliezer ben Yaakov — and the halachah in Rambam (2:8) and Shulchan Aruch (607:4) is that one may, or even should, repeat viduy from one Yom Kippur to the next.

Many reasons are given not to repeat it — Medrash Rabbah (Pikudei 52:2):

It’s like a dog returning to its vomit (עתק),

It can appear arrogant (בגאוה), as if there are no new sins,

Or it can show a lack of belief in Hashem’s forgiveness (ובוז).

Still, we pasken that one may or should repeat viduy on Yom Kippur.

I would like to suggest that there are two different types of viduy — and two different types of teshuvah.

Commentaries note distinctions in the Rambam’s presentation. In 1:1, the Rambam writes: ועשיתי כך וכך... ולעולם איני חוזר לדבר זה — detailing the sin and the commitment not to repeat. There’s no mention of repetition. But later, in the Yom Kippur viduy (2:8) — הוידוי שנהגו בו כל ישראל אבל אנחנו חטאנו — there’s no detail, no future commitment, and the Rambam explicitly says it is repeated yearly.

The Rambam also distinguishes between general teshuvah (up to 2:6) and the special teshuvah of Yom Kippur.

Rabbeinu Yonah too notes a separate requirement of teshuvah (2:14, 4:17), and in 4:21 explains that there are two kinds of viduy — one that is repeated and one that is not.

There’s a Medrash Rabbah (Bereishis 22:13) — when Adam saw Kayin alive after his sin, he exclaimed: טוב להודות.

The Yerushalmi (Shavuos 1:5) says that when Moshe saw all the se’irim brought for doubtful sins, he asked what atones for known sins. Hashem replied with the words of Aharon’s Yom Kippur viduy — “והתודה.” Moshe then exclaimed: מזמור לתודה.

The Zohar (quoted in Reishis Chochmah, Ahavah 10:15) also reads מזמור לתודה as a reference to viduy. It says that the next verse — עבדו את ה׳ בשמחה, בואו לפניו ברננה — is fulfilled when one says viduy with his korban. The kohen brings simcha, the levi’im bring renanah. But now, without the Beis HaMikdash, how can a brokenhearted viduy come with simcha and renanah? The Zohar answers: through the praises of Hashem, through Torah and song that accompany viduy.

I would like to suggest that the two perakim in Tehillim referring to viduy correspond to the two types of viduy in the Rambam and Rabbeinu Yonah. One — טוב להודות — expresses teshuvah itself: the mitzvah to confess specific wrongdoing and commit never to repeat it. This viduy is not repeated; the person has changed completely — past, present, and future.

The other — עבדו את ה׳ — belongs to the avodah of Yom Kippur: to verbally say “we have sinned,” even without specific detail or personal feeling, acknowledging that all people sin — אין צדיק בארץ אשר יעשה טוב ולא יחטא. This viduy is repeated each Yom Kippur.

This explains why there can be a repeated viduy for Yom Kippur purposes, even though the teshuvah itself — the deep revelation of the self — should not require repetition.

This is the ultimate teshuvah — the revelation of the pure essence of a person that transcends time, bonding with Hashem like cold welding, up to the כסא הכבוד. It redefines באשר הוא שם — not as a point in time, but as an all-encompassing state.

The Rambam opens the Yad HaChazakah: לידע שיש שם מצוי ראשון. The Kesef Mishneh asks — where is שם? He explains that sometimes שם does not refer to one point, but to the encompassing of all points.

The Malbim even explains באשר הוא שם as referring to Hashem Himself — Hashem being there for salvation.

This is the revelation of the shofar: we are not bound by our material selves, nor defined by sin. Teshuvah allows us to identify with the eternal, timeless spirit within, and to return — body and soul together — in performance of Hashem’s mitzvos.


Saturday, September 27, 2025

NITZAVIM - LEFT STANDING

 אתם נצבים – Rashi says that this gathering took place on the day of Moshe’s eventual death. The Sifsei Chachamim explains that Rashi learned this from the word היום as a reference to the known day of which Moshe later says בן מאה ועשרים שנה אנכי היום . 

However, perhaps as a bit of a drush of מילתא דבדיחותא we may ask that Rashi make no mention of the word היום and in most prints, it is not even in Rashi’s dibbur hamaschil!

Perhaps we can say with a bit of humor, that we know the parsha always hints to the time of year. Rashi knew it was the day of Moshe’s departure simply because אתם נצבים – they were all STANDING!  - Why were they all standing at this meeting? They must have not had a seating gabbai!

Why not? Wasn’t Yehoshua always the one to set up the seating in the Ohel Moed? Why did he not do so that day? It must be that it was the day of Moshe’s departure and subsequently Yehoshua’s day of malchus. It would be inappropriate for Yehoshua to be serving as Mishares Moshe and the seating gabbai on the same day of his inauguration. 

Hence, they were all left standing. 😉 


Saturday, August 30, 2025

SHOFTIM - WHO HAS TIME?

 SHOFTIM - WHO HAS TIME?

In this week's parshah, Shoftim it speaks of a Jewish siege around a city that take place for YAMIM RABIM - many days. Rashi explains this to mean just 3 days. This is a bit astounding as we find that when Yakov Avinun worked for Lavan for 7 years he considered all those years just YAMIM ACHADIM a short few days!

The Zohar says that on a deeper level, this passuk is directed at the Satan. When it is decreed for a "siege" of judgement to fall upon Klal Yisrael, Hashem tells the Satan that 3 days is too much time for Talmidei Chachamim to suffer affliction and have disruption from their Torah. So when Torah is being interfered with, three days is Yamim Rabim - alot. But when Yaa'kov was listening to his mother Rivka in seeking his zivug, and his investment of time towards that  mitzvah of marriage itself, all the time in the world is considered quite little. 

This is the concept of היום קצר והמלאכה מרובה - however much time you may think you have, if you are a בעל מלאכה - a spritually productive person, there never is enough. The day is always too short. Life is short for a real בעל מלאכה. 

"Long days of summer" is the phrase of those who are not truly active and productive. They have no sense of urgency that comes with a מצווה ועושה. Someone who is aware that אנן אגירי יומא אנן - we are hirees for the day, and ובעל הבית דוחק - The Boss is always pressing, sees time as fleeting.

One week into Ellul, many can still have the feeling that there is plenty of time until Rosh HaShanah to do Teshuvah. And even after that there is still time until Yom Kippur. But that must be a person who has no concept of the מלאכה at hand. He is totally blind of the responsibilities of tikkun that require his attention. He is a Batlan. A Batlan has time.

We have just Yamim Achadim. Chap Arain and fix and do as much as you can. Now. 

Sunday, May 4, 2025

AVOS 2.9 AVOS 2.13 Lev Tov - a good heart.

 לב טוב  Lev Tov - a good heart.

This is one of the most vague and broadly interpreted lines in Pirkei Avos which leaves us bereft of the entire goal of R Yochanan Ben Zakkai. R'Y'B'Z' instructed his Talmidim to each find one specific trait to work on aiming for perfection so that many other middos will naturally follow suit. Giving a broad definition to לב טוב  misses his point entirely. However R' Yonah gives a very specific definition; סבלנות - to perfect the trait of tolerance. Patience is just one form of tolerating discomfort. But learning to peacefully accept and bear any burden upon yourself is an exercise of ענוה as well.

We usually understand that being סובל difficulties and especially the wrongdoings and disrespect from others is a wonderful, but very specific trait. This R' Yonah opens up a whole new understanding that this middah is so great and all encompassing that all the others are included in it!